Why Do People Hate?
Posted on May 23, 2022
Medical Author: Rohini Radhakrishnan, ENT, Head and Neck Surgeon.
Hate is a feeling of intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or a sense of injury. It is extreme dislike or disgust. Hatred is an emotion. Extreme hatred can inspire violence. Hatred is a feeling everyone has felt and experienced at some point, especially after being betrayed or hurt physically or emotionally by someone. It is normal to have hateful feelings occasionally. However, feeling hatred over a long time and holding on to hate can be detrimental to the mind and body.
Hate can breed more negative emotions. It can affect personal and professional relationships. Hatred changes the chemistry in the brain. It stimulates the area in the brain responsible for planning and execution of motion. This part triggers aggressionwhile feeling hateful to either defend or attack. This also creates “fight or flight” responses and increases the levels of two hormones: cortisol and adrenaline. These hormones can cause weight gain, insomnia, anxiety, depression, and chronic illness. Hatred also triggers the mind to try to predict what the person being hated may do as a defense mechanism. This leads to further anxiety, restlessness, obsessive thinking, and paranoia, which affects overall mental health.
Hatred negatively impacts the nervous system, immune system, and endocrine system. Extreme emotions trigger the release of stress hormones in the brain. Over time, these stress hormones lead to increased inflammation throughout the body, resulting in significant health consequences. The more intense an emotion becomes, the more physically demanding it is to contain it. Holding on to hate can be exhausting. It can cause involuntary clenching of the jaw, grinding the teeth, and tensing the muscles.
The opposite of hate is often considered love, but this is not true. Opposite of hate is mental and emotional detachment. Hatred creates an attachment to the thing or person hated the most. Hatred is an intense repulsion. Hatred falsely inflates the ego and makes one feel very superior and self-righteous against the thing or person who is hated, which only results in more pain.
How to get rid of hatred
People often ignore their emotions of hate or justify and blame others for their hate. Unaddressed negative emotions build up and intensify over time, affecting the mind and body. The following tips can help get rid of hatred:
- Acknowledge that you feel hateful. Acknowledging this can begin to deal with this emotion and find a solution to the problem.
- Understand the root cause of hate. Hate usually stems from fear, insecurity, or mistrust.
- Do not compare yourself with others. Strive to be the best version of yourself instead.
- When you feel hate or anger, it is best to take a step back and avoid reacting in heat of the moment. It is difficult to make the right decisions when you are feeling hateful and angry.
- While feeling hate or anger, you may consider taking a break from the situation, going for a walk, mediation, playing with pets, or doing an activity you find enjoyable.
- Face the problem instead of ignoring the issue. Try to find a solution to the problem. You may consider talking to someone you trust, such as a close friend, family, or partner. You can also consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. They can assess you to understand your emotions and the origin of hate. Treatment generally involves counseling to help manage negative emotions and develop coping mechanisms. Medication may be prescribed if needed.